Letting Go

Letting go can be a decision it can be a feeling and most of the time it’s not easy. Letting go of something that is special to you, allowing yourself to let go, trying not to over think a situation and allowing yourself the opportunity to live are all situations where you first must let go.

For me this year has been  somewhat crazy. At the beginning of each year I think about the things I would like to achieve I think to myself this is the year I’m going to get it done. This is the year I’m going to make it happen then the year just passes me by and I am left feeling a bit empty and like I’m not really achieving all that much. This is the first year in a long time that I actually feel like I am going somewhere and doing something with my life. A lot of that has been the people around me. I am extremely lucky to have super supportive friends and family. Something that has taken ages for me to realise is that not every day can be the best day ever while the majority of my days are fairly hoe hum occasionally you have a day that is so awesome you wish you could re live it. This weekend has been one of those times and part of that process has been letting go, and not in a negative way. This year has presented some career opportunities which have me really excited. I have met someone who I think is pretty special (who am I kidding that’s the understatement of the century). I am really enjoying having someone to look forward to at the end of a long day at work. Someone I can just be completely myself around and not worry about what they’re thinking of me. I’ve been eating healthy and exercising recently I think it’s a combination of the above but I’m feeling really good about life. You might be reading this thinking wow that’s cool you just sit there on your high horse and enjoy it all but in all honesty I have times when I’m in the dumps too. I have days when I don’t want to get out of bed. That is completely natural. The one thing I have realised though is that having a sense of balance in life is definitely paramount to feeling good. Every aspect of your life effects other aspects so try to get it all in sync and you’ll feel so much better.

While experiencing life you’re going to get hurt, whether it’s heartbreak or something within your friendgroup or family it’s inevitable you will experience it at one point or another. While at the time it sucks heart break is a beautiful thing because it shows you care. It means you have compassion which seems to be a dying thing at times. Often when you feel hurt you feel annoyed or angry generally we point that anger, frustration and hurt at the person who has made us feel that way. While two wrongs don’t make a right sometimes it feels good to know that person is feeling some of the hurt they made you feel. This is definitely just a short term fix but it definitely isn’t healthy.

Love and Letting Go – When you have a special connection with someone I think there are two different types of letting go. One of those is when you’re getting to know that person. You enjoy their company you’d like to get to know them better and you want to spend more time with them. When you do spend more time with this person there will come a time when you need to let go of your worries. Let go of the concern that they might not like you, they might have different interests or god forbid they have different taste in music. This is why it is super important to take things slow and not get too carried away too early in the relationship. Take the time to get to know this person. Slowly become more comfortable and when you do feel comfortable with them let down your guard. The one person you love is the one person you should’t keep secrets from. They will become your best friend and they only have your best interest at heart. When you realise this it’s time to let go. Don’t be worried about taking your time to get to know someone. Trust is a big thing when it comes to relationships. You’re never going to regret taking time to get to know someone but you might one day regret rushing things too much.

Friends and Letting Go – Letting go of friends is similar to letting go of love. You’ve got the positive friend-zone and the negative friend-zone. Lets get the negative out of the way first. This is the friend that is a bad influence this is the friend that you dread having to hang out with the friend that is draining your energy. This friendship isn’t a healthy one and you’ve got a very important decision to make. Is this friend one you’re willing to fight for. Are you willing to make changes to your own life to make this friendship work? Would your life be drastically different if they weren’t involved in it any longer? You’ve got to think positives and negatives here. While they might have hurt you a lot recently think of all the good times you spent together think about what they have sacrificed to support you and make you happy. Think to yourself would I have done the same? Think to yourself is this person a bad person or are they just trying to find their way in this big bad world. If this is a friend you’re willing to fight for then you need to let go of the negativity. Talk to that friend be completely open and honest. Tell them how you’re feeling tell them how they’re effecting your life. A true friend never intentionally hurts you but this is life and sometimes things happen that you have to forget and forgive. Don’t be afraid to let go of the negativity. Focus on a brighter future and think about how ya’ll can have fun again. There’s no point dwelling on the past, learn from it and move on.

Yesterday and Letting Go – I am a deeply spiritual person. Sometimes I hate being alone sometimes I love it and sometimes when I am alone I think about what I’ve done and am haunted by memories of a past I am not that proud of. I’ve never really done anything all that bad or drastic but in hindsight there are definitely moments when I wish my decision making was a little better. The more I think about this the more I think about how normal that is. Everyone has parts of their past that they’re not all that proud of. Everyone has demons in the wardrobe and as long as you learn from them there is no point hanging onto them. It’s time to let go of those negative thoughts and make room for more positive ones. I’m not saying be complacent but I am saying don’t be so ashamed of your past that you forget to live your life. Make the most of every opportunity!

I guess the moral of the story is think, breathe and let go.

All the best!

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