The other day I was in a conversation with a friend about some things that had happened a couple of years ago and it got me thinking. It got me thinking about what I know now and what I might have done differently back then. Hindsight is a beautiful thing and while there are a lot of things I would have done differently in friendships, relationships and family life the thing you’ve got to remember is that every experience makes us who we are today.
Friendships are one area that definitely influence you. They say choose your friends wisely because you become a lot like them. I feel this is really true. I’ve always had friends with similar interests. I’m sure most friendships stem from one common feature. It allows you to relate to each other and grow a bond from that. Personally music is one thing that a lot of my friendships have grown from. I love going to concerts so most of my friends either don’t mind going to concerts or enjoy going themselves. I enjoy a wide range of music which is reflected in the variety of friends that I have.
Love is one area of life that I have learned a lot about over the past 5 years in particular. I used to think you needed to be in a relationship to be happy. I thought a relationship would make you feel secure and that you had a place in life. After a few didn’t work out I’ve quickly come to realise how special relationships are. They’re not there as a point of acceptance or to give you worth. they’re there for you to enjoy. When you learn to love yourself your relationships will be so much more successful. You can’t possibly expect someone else to love you when you don’t love yourself. Have some self worth and give yourself credit for your strengths and talents. If you haven’t yet met the person that is right for you don’t be concerned. If it doesn’t work out the first time don’t worry either. With every relationship you will get life experience and you will grow as a person. You will learn what works and what doesn’t work and one day you will meet someone who deserves your love as much as you deserve theirs.
Career. Hmmm this is an interesting one. I feel like career paths are so intertwined in life. If you are passionate about your career that is definitely a great place to start. It’s hard when choosing a career. For me I always wanted to be an actor from a young age I fell in love with entertaining people. I would put on magic shows from my family and friends and would make stages out of LEGO and dreamed one day that I would be performing on those stages. While I have had an incredible career so far and have had so many opportunities I feel I haven’t yet reached my true potential. I’m not sure if it will be acting… I’m not even sure if it will be one of those stages I spent hours crafting out of lego when my dreams were so big. It might be something more humble like community work but what ever I do I want to help people, I want to make people laugh I want to remind people that the world isn’t all that bad. While there are some awful things happening there are some pretty awesome things too. If someone tells you that you’re good enough use that as motivation to show them you are good enough and that you can do it. I was once told that I would NEVER be on the radio. I now host a nationwide show on one of the biggest music stations in New Zealand. While to this day I am confused how that happened someone obviously believed in me. There is no reason why you can’t achieve those dreams too! If your first choice of career doesn’t work out don’t worry there are so many different career paths you can take. You’re not locked into one job forever. You have the freedom to try as many things as you want to. Enjoy your career it will become a massive part of your life and it will make life all the better if you enjoy your job.
While you could sit all day and think about all the things you’ve done wrong in the past. While you might have been a bit hot headed once or twice it’s time to learn from those situations and apply your learning to the future. Everything you have experienced makes you who you are today. Be thankful for those experiences. Whether they were positive or negative it doesn’t matter. The negatives make those positives all the more worthwhile. Don’t be afraid of the demons in your closet. The people who truly care about you will understand that you were young, you made a bad decision and now you want to make better choices. They will support you to making the right decisions and they will be there with you every step of the way. Don’t ever be afraid or ashamed of your past. You are entitled to every mistake you make as long as you learn from each and every one of them.
Ok now stop thinking and go enjoy yourself. It is the weekend after all!