Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily

I stumbled across this blog about why modern relationships are falling apart so easily it makes so much sense I just had to share it with you. I really hope that you can take away new knowledge from this incredible article. I believe that knowledge is power and and I hope this gives you the knowledge and power to help you fix your broken relationship, help you understand why your relationship hasn’t worked out or help you to understand how to make your next relationship work.

Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?

We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.

It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We immerse ourselves in the inconsequential of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.

We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together any more. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.

We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated’. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfilment we need. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo any more. Relationships aren’t that simple any more. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly any more. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.

We don’t even value relationships any more. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred any more.

There’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call it.

– Source: mensxp.com

4 thoughts on “Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily

  1. I read this yesterday and I agree and disagree with parts. I agree with the scared of falling because you don’t want to get hurt. It’s something people need to take a leap and trust the person they’re with that they won’t try to hurt them and know it’s okay to be vulnerable sometimes. I believe it’s mostly the fear of feeling rejected when relationships don’t work out. If people are afraid of commitment then why would they try and have a relationship with someone that’s looking for that? If someone isn’t willing for all the sacrifices as well as everything else that love comes with then why would they waste someone else’s time and feelings that want that?

    1. I totally agree there are parts that I agree with and parts that I don’t agree with but on the whole I think it is an interesting read! Trust is such a personal thing and it’s so hard to put your feelings on the line and risk getting hurt but at the same time sometimes it’s just what you have to do. You never know what it might be if you don’t try.

  2. Last night a colleague at work, who is nearing his sixties, was talking about how as people get older they get ‘stuck in their own ways’ and when it comes to comes to relationships are less likely to compromise.

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