Sam Hunt – ‘Take Your Time’

Occasionally you hear a song that literally explains exactly how you’re feeling and for me this is exactly that song. It explains how I feel, it explains my thoughts, feelings and emotions. Have a listen to the song and read the lyrics as you listen.
I don’t know if you were looking at me or not
You probably smile like that all the time
And I don’t mean to bother you but
I couldn’t just walk by
And not say, “Hi”And I know your name
‘Cause everybody in here knows your name
And you’re not looking for anything right now
So I don’t wanna come on strong
Don’t get me wrong

Your eyes are so intimidating
My heart is pounding but
It’s just a conversation
No, girl I’m not wasted
You don’t know me
I don’t know you but I want to

I don’t wanna steal your freedom
I don’t wanna change your mind
I don’t have to make you love me
I just wanna take your time

I don’t wanna wreck your Friday
I ain’t gonna waste my lines
I don’t have to take your heart
I just wanna take your time

And I know it starts with “Hello”
And the next thing you know you’re trying to be nice
And some guys getting too close
Trying to pick you up
Trying to get you drunk

And I’m sure one of your friends is about to come over here
‘Cause she’s supposed to save you from random guys
That talk too much and wanna stay too long
It’s the same old song and dance but I think you know it well

You could’ve rolled your eyes
Told me to go to hell
Could’ve walked away
But you’re still here
And I’m still here
Come on let’s see where it goes

I don’t wanna steal your freedom
I don’t wanna change your mind
I don’t have to make you love me
I just wanna take your time

I don’t have to meet your mother
We don’t have to cross that line
I don’t wanna steal your covers
I just wanna take your time

I don’t wanna go home with you

I just wanna be alone with you

I don’t wanna steal your freedom
I don’t wanna change your mind
I don’t have to make you love me
I just wanna take your time

I don’t wanna blow your phone up
I just wanna blow your mind
I don’t have to take your heart
I just wanna take your time

No, I ain’t gotta call you baby
And I ain’t gotta call you mine
I don’t have to take your heart
I just wanna take your time

I’m not entirely sure what Sam’s inspiration was when he was writing the song but for me this song is about misunderstanding. It’s about a special friendship where you don’t see eye to eye. I can relate a lot to that feeling at the moment and the more I listen to it the more it makes sense, the more it makes me confused and the more I get confused the more I remember that you don’t have control over everything in life. Relationships are the hardest, all you want is the best for someone and one day they decide you’re not the best for them and it sucks. You’re left with so many questions. Did I not try hard enough, is there something else I could have done, did we give up too soon. Should we try again. Would you try again. Where to now?

One of the hardest things we have to experience in life is moving on when you don’t want to. In honesty you don’t have to move on until you’re ready. You don’t have to pretend to be happy, take life at your own pace. Good things take time and one day you will feel great again but right now you just have to find comfort in the simple things. The feeling of emptiness is totally normal. Confusion, anger and hurting are all natural in the grieving process. Sometimes I feel we think a little too much about how we “should” be feeling or what we “should” be doing. The truth is there is no wrong or right answer. We just have to find things that make us feel good again. As much as it is important to do things that make you feel good I think it is just as important to have those moments of reflecting and processing your thoughts and feelings. You are hurting and that’s totally fine. When you care a lot about someone they do become a part of your life. When they’re no longer there it is totally normal to feel like a bit of you is missing. It’s important at a time like this to keep your friends close but try not to over complicate things. Talking to your friends isn’t always going to help. The connection you’ve had with someone is a special bond that you have shared no one really understands how you feel about someone. While you can seek advice from your friends the truth is they don’t always understand. Your friends want the best for you and they want to make sure that you’re ok so naturally they’re going to try and give you advice. Sometimes they will say things that you might  not agree with. Sometimes in life you have to take a risk and make your own decision. If the risk of having your heart broken outweighs the thought of never knowing what your future might be I think that’s a risk you need to take. That being said no one can tell you what to do but think about every possible outcome and how you will handle it if it isn’t the outcome you were hoping for.

Ok that was a tangent… getting back to the song. Commitment is something that freaks me out. It’s something I have always struggled with but recently I met someone who struggles with it more than I do… I didn’t think that was possible but apparently it is. Well anyway a few months ago we were having a chat and I wish I could have said the following…

I don’t wanna steal your freedom
I don’t wanna change your mind
I don’t have to make you love me
I just wanna take your time

To me that sums up the perfect relationship. Relationships shouldn’t be about owning or controlling someone, they shouldn’t be about convincing or mind games, you shouldn’t ever have to make someone love you. They should be about enjoying each other’s company and sharing time with each other. To me that is the perfect relationship. I don’t want some sappy love story I want a best friend who enjoys sharing their time for me. I’ve had a few relationships and yeah some have been better than others, the most recent one was the best yet. Lately I’ve been feeling a bit down about the whole situation. Thinking it over contemplating what it was, what it could have been and what I would have done differently if I could do it again. The truth is there isn’t anything I would have done differently. In a relationship timing is everything and when the timing isn’t right there really isn’t anything you can do about it. I could spend the next 3 months of my life wishing we were still together and I probably will do exactly that but if you are in or have been in a similar situation I want you to remember that sometime you have no control over the situation so don’t beat yourself up about it. You can’t change someone’s mind, you can’t force them to like you, or want to be with you. The best thing you can do is love with all your heart and when your love isn’t wanted let go. I know it’s not as simple as that but don’t hold on to what it used to be. Spread your wings and focus on making sure that tomorrow is better than yesterday. You don’t need to think about moving on. Wait for your heart to become whole again. Allow yourself some time to yourself and enjoy your own company.

If you are reading this and you have ever loved someone that doesn’t love you back just know that it isn’t a reflection of you as a person it isn’t a reflection of what you deserve this is merely a moment in time which is an opportunity to grow and you will grow. You are going to flourish. Your future is brighter than your past and the present is is where your future begins. I am truly sorry that you are hurting but this hurt is going to make your future happiness feel so much better.

From my heart to yours here is some positive energy. Remember you my friend are not alone.

All the love.

C.

 

One thought on “Sam Hunt – ‘Take Your Time’

  1. It sucks when you care too much and someone you thought cared makes you feel like they never cared at all. You want to just let go after it’s been a while and because of that feeling of rejection they gave you, but you can’t stop overthinking if you said or did something differently when you could feel things were a little off would’ve changed the situation. You keep thinking with time they might want to fix things too but as more days pass, you realize it might be best to finally let go and stop it from bothering you since it’s obviously not affecting the other person. Then it’s important to remember there are people that care about you now and there will be new people you meet that will care about you too.

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