When you wake up in the morning are you living life for yourself or are you trying to make someone else happy. Does someone else’s happiness make you happy? Is the reason you get out of bed in the morning influenced by the thought of making another person happy? If you answered yes to any of these questions I applaud you because you are a selfless person, you are caring, kind and genuine but I want to warn you that people will take advantage of your kind nature, and I don’t want to see you getting hurt because of it.
I think it is important to support, love and share with the people around you but there comes a line if you’re putting someone else’s happiness above your own. You need to realise that you can’t live in sadness or put your life on hold to ensure someone else is happy. You deserve to be happy just has much as them. Only you can find your happiness and the truth is only they can find theirs. As much as you want to give someone happiness it’s just not a gift that you can give. Happiness comes from within, yes you can be there to support someone, yes you can remind them how to smile or what laughing feels like but at the end of the day if they aren’t happy in themselves you can’t make them be happy. Just like you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
The hardest part of this whole situation is feeling like you’re turning your back on someone. Trust me that isn’t the case. Giving yourself space, allowing yourself to enjoy life and getting on with you life isn’t something you should ever apologise for. We only have one life. We have to make the most of every minute we have. You’ve got to ask yourself if I don’t focus on my personal happiness how long is this situation going to go on for. How long will it be until they’re no longer interested in you again, how long will it be before you realise that no matter how much you give, no matter how hard you try it’s not ever enough.
I just can’t stress enough how important your happiness is. So much lately I’ve seen people trying to keep other people happy and they’ve suffered because of it. You might not even realise you’re suffering but if you feel even the slightest sadness you are suffering and that isn’t ok. Do what is right by you. Be the person you need to be for yourself. To some extent this is a selfish world. I know there are lots of incredible things going on but just hear me out for one minute. No one is going to make your dreams happen for you, you have to work for them. No one is going to make a relationship work for you there has to be two people who share a connection that want to be together. No one is going to make your career happen for you, you have to work for it. Do you know the most exciting part of all of this. The reward at the end of it. The moment you realise I worked for this and it worked out. That is such a magical feeling. This is a feeling only you can provide for yourself.
While it is hard and it will take time eventually you will realise that sometimes you just need to focus on yourself. Keep positive energy around you. Keep you friends close but know that you’ve got the strength to do this on your own. You are stronger than you think. Every experience we go through in life prepares us for the next experience. Kindy prepares us for school which prepares us for intermediate which is a stepping stone to high school which eventually if you want to further your education prepares you for uni or polytech if you get straight into the work force all of these experiences have set you up for which ever career path you choose. In life there is no right or wrong answer. In all honesty you just have to do what you feel is right. If it feels right eventually you will experience success. Remember that good things take time. We all make mistakes and know that it’s not a bad thing if you have to ask for forgiveness. Trying and realising it wasn’t the right decision is better than questioning what it might have been had you tried.
This is a new week, it’s a new beginning. Walk forward with confidence. Walk forward with patients. But most importantly walk forward with your own happiness in mind. Live in the moment and most importantly live for you.
All the love.