Expectations are a natural part of life. Life is full of expectation. Personal expectation, financial expectation, career expectation, the expectation of our colleagues, friends and family. Of course with your own expectations come the expectations from the people around you. Whether it be friends, family or colleagues there are certain things that are expected of you. While you can’t really change someone else’s expectations of you the opportunity for you to set your own expectations on yourself is definitely there.
You might be thinking well Cam as long as I do my best then that’s enough and I totally agree with you. All my life I’ve been told to just do my best and that is all that I can do. For the most part that is right but how do you know what your best is? If you push yourself just a little bit more what are you capable of achieving. How do you become the best in your craft. When I began asking myself these questions I really didn’t have an answer. How do you be the best radio host is it by having the most listeners? Is it by knowing the most about music? Is it doing the best interviews? Then I started thinking I’m doing this whole thing wrong. I try and do my best always but I have been using that as an excuse not to progress. In all honesty I think being the best is being organised and putting in the ground work. You’re never going to do your best interview without doing research. You are never going to host a good show if you don’t know what new music is coming out. Most importantly though you aren’t going to be successful if you aren’t authentic. It’s 2017 if people want to know the real you they will find you. After realising authenticity is most important thing I began questioning who I am and what I actually stand for. This opened the floodgate of anxiety. How am I 25 and not really know who I am. After spending the past 30 minutes feeling totally overwhelmed I have come to another conclusion. This is life and life isn’t done. Life wasn’t designed so that you feel ok 100% of the time. There will be moments you feel lost. There will be situations that make you feel uncomfortable. It’s ok to question yourself, what you are doing and if you are living to your full purpose.
I am still trying to figure out what my purpose is. I don’t think I have completely found my purpose yet and it feels weird saying that because most people would say I am doing pretty well. Success is another expectation. Unfortunately in this day and age success is mostly measured in money. For me money isn’t success, you could have all the money in the world and still not be successful. To me success is creating a positive influence in someone else’s life. I am not saying I am a role model or that people should look and my views and try to live their life like me or that my views are more important that someone else’s. I share my views because this is my way of attempting to make sense of the world. It is my way of trying to make sense of the life that I am living. I share my views because some days there are times where I wish I had someone that I could tell these things that I am thinking. I write my thoughts in this blog because chances are someone else has thought a similar thing at one point or another. I want you to know that in this journey of life you are not alone. The thoughts in your head are thoughts that I probably think on a daily basis. They are thoughts that other humans will have spent time mulling over. Ok I am getting off topic here. I guess what I am trying to say is if you are feeling overwhelmed about something it might be time to look at your expectations and reevaluate the situation.
The first part of finding a solution is identifying the issue. While writing this blog in my head I have identified multiple issues that I have. The idea is to write these issues, problems or concerns down. After you write them down you must identify what it is you need to do to overcome that issue.
Interviews – I would like to be better at interviewing the artists that come in. I have noticed that sometimes they mention artists that I don’t know or haven’t heard their music. Sometimes I pretend to know who they are talking about, that isn’t being authentic. Rather than going along with it get them to explain the artist and their vibe. It’s impossible to have heard every song ever made. Listening is just as important if not more important than asking questions. Rather than focusing on the next question I need to focus on what the artist is actually saying.
Being Authentic – this requires honesty. Some days I don’t feel confident, some days my insecurities get the best of me. On days where you do feel insecure or overwhelmed be honest. Nobody is perfect and someone listening will be able to relate to the way you are feeling. You are human it’s ok to not feel ok all the time.
Knowing the music – for the show that I host it is important that I am on top of all the new music. as I said earlier it’s impossible to know every song and every artist but I am going to dedicate more time to listening to new music and new artists.
Start with 3 things and find 3 solutions to the three issues and go from there. There is no point bombarding yourself with a million things to work on. Once you find solutions to these problems hit the drawing board again recognise more things you would like to improve and once again think of a solution and work to make that solution happen.
Expectations can be a minefield but with the right game plan you can find success.