Finding peace is paramount to living a happy life in my eyes. You must find peace in order to move on. You must feel at peace with who you are. You have to try not to second guess the decisions you make and most importantly you need to believe in yourself.
I had an eye opening moment the other day. Somebody asked me “do other people believe in you more than you believe in yourself?” My response to that question was “yes of course.” That isn’t a healthy way to live life. It isn’t arrogant to believe in yourself. Believing in yourself is a good thing, a positive mentality will make you better at your craft what ever it might be. Do you think the best athletes get to the top of their game by doubting themselves? Of course not, they work hard and they believe in themselves. Find peace in believing that you are the right person for the job. Have faith that you have the best skillset to get the job done and if you feel like you could do better then work hard, put in some extra effort and see what you’re capable of.
You must find peace in your relationships. Whether it be a current relationship or one that has ended it’s important to find peace. If you are in a relationship don’t doubt why this person is with you. Know that you are beautiful, talented and have a personality that your significant other finds attractive. Over thinking the relationship isn’t going to help you, it’s not going to help them either. Be yourself unapologetically. Remember you’re both only human. It’s not going to be perfect all the time but when you find peace at least you will have a good time. Live in the moment. Remember than no two relationships are the same. As hard as it is never relate your current relationship and situation to a previous one. It isn’t ever going to help comparing apples with lemons.
If you were in a relationship that has come to an end it is important that you deal with the emotions and feelings you are going through. You have every right to be upset. You have every wright to be confused or angry. To be honest you will probably feel all of these emotions at one point or another when going through a break up. There is no right or wrong way to find peace in a break up. Chances are it is probably going to take time, a lot of time. Whilst experiencing your break up your friends are probably going to give you advice. While your friends have your best intentions at heart sometimes you have to go against their advice and do what feels right. When there is no right or wrong way of doing something occasionally you just have to try things and see how it feels. For some people never talking to an ex again is the best way to move forward. For some people that connection is important and while the connection might be totally different the fact that you are still friend means a lot. Right now it might be making you anxious, you might not want to let that person in, you might be afraid that they’re going to hurt you again. The thing that you need to remember is nothing is forever. Trial and error is a beautiful thing. Give it a go, you will know when you find inner peace.
Finding your inner peace isn’t something that is going to happen overnight. It is a work in progress but I promise you that life will feel a whole lot better when you do find it. It’s unrealistic finding peace across every aspect of your life so hone in on one area that you’d like to resolve and do what you can to keep that feeling of peace and solidarity.
Start with the simple things. Clean your room. Throw away clutter. Wash your car. Do the groceries for the weak. Do some exercise. Sometimes a little organisation can help with general feeling of stability.