I know what you’re thinking Cam why would I ever take relationship advice from you? When have you ever been in a successful relationship. The truth is I haven’t and being in the wrong relationships has taught me a lot. Mostly it has taught me that hindsight is a beautiful thing but it has also taught me some important things that you should remember. Whether you’re in a relationship and you’re not sure what to do or maybe you’re single and you’re hoping that maybe one day soon you might be swept of your feet hopefully these thoughts will help you build or sustain a relationship that will last the test of time.
Relationships are about mutual respect and input. If you feel as though you’re putting all the work in this relationship isn’t going to end healthily. There will be a point you get sick of putting in the extra effort or if you feel that your partner is the one doing all of the work eventually they will get tired of carrying your weight. It’s pretty simple to show a bit of extra effort it can be something simple like doing the dishes or cleaning a car. It doesn’t always have to cost the world. Think of ways you can spend time together. Quality time. Whether it be a walk, a movie or a nice lunch listening to your favourite songs. I’ll leave the detail up to you but try and be creative do something special that that person will really enjoy. It’s easy to get stuck in our ways and think about ourselves. But if you’re lucky enough to have a special someone show them how much they mean to you.
Communication. I can’t even begin to tell you how important communication is. I honestly believe that communication or the lack of communication is the beginning of almost every negative experience you have in life. While communication is a simple concept sometimes it is easier said than done. It is so important in relationships to say how you’re feeling. Express your wants needs and desires. While it’s important to express it’s just as important to listen. Just how relationships are a two way street so is communication.
Compromise. In a situation that involves more than one person things will get complicated. You might have different interests, different tastes and different ideas. It’s definitely not a bad thing but it definitely will require compromise every now and again. While it’s nice to get your way I hate to break it to you but you can’t have your way all the time. There might be something you want to do, or somewhere you want to go but if your partner wants to do something or go somewhere the only way to resolve this one is compromise unless you want to eat solo.
Relationships should make you happy. If you’re in a relationship and you don’t feel happy I hate to break it to you but maybe this relationship isn’t right for you. People don’t really change. You can express how you’re feeling, hope your partner understands and maybe they will make a change for a while but eventually they will probably go back to their old habits. As frustrating as it is you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. While it can be tempting to reignite an old flame I advise you to think about the reasons the relationship ended the first time. Is it likely that anything is going to change. Can you forgive this person for the way that they treated you? Every person is different and every situation is different, there is no wrong or right answer and sometimes you just have to test the waters and that’s ok too. Happiness is the reason we have friends, it’s the reason we want to be in relationships. Really happiness is the essence of life. Relationships won’t always be easy but if you’re spending more time unhappy or fighting that you are enjoying each others company see the alarm bell and think very carefully about the path you’re on.
In my experience sometimes I think we stay in relationships because they’re convenient. It’s engrained in us from a young age that we will have a partner fall in love, start a family and so on and so fourth. The ideal of society isn’t always the way life plays out and that’s totally ok too. You shouldn’t ever apologise for realising your worth. You shouldn’t ever waste a moment thinking what people will think of your decisions. This is your life. You have to live with it. People might look from the outside and think they know what’s going on but in all honesty they have no idea. They have no idea what you’ve been through. In all honesty we have no idea what the future has in store for us. While that is an exciting prospect it is also terrifying.
My advice to you is to do nothing in halves. If you’re going to love someone don’t shower them in love. Give them a waterfall of love. Breath happiness into every aspect of your life. Life is all about finding balance. You are in control. Take life by the balls and live every moment like you intend to live the rest of your life. We all have lulls we fall into ruts it’s how you find your way out of that rut and keep on running that really matters. Remember nobody is too good for you. Nobody deserves to hurt you. Nobody should ever make you feel broken. You are enough and if somebody can’t respect and accept you for you they’re not deserving of your love. Spread kindness always. Dream big and love unconditionally.
Here’s to 2018 being full of love and prosperity!