Forgive To Forget

2018 has been a rather hectic year so far. I’ve made a conscious effort to keep this week free and spend some time thinking, writing and exercising. I think it’s super important to have balance in life. You can’t spend all your life at work and you can’t expect your life to be fun 100% of the time. While life gets frantic I think it’s easy to forget the simple things. Take some time for yourself and process everything that has been going on. Take some time to do something creative or ensure you’ve got a few minutes to yourself to do some exercise. While it’s important to take a moment to declutter I also think it’s important to declutter your mind. You can’t be the best if you’re holding onto things that aren’t really important to you anymore. I’ve been having a massive declutter lately throwing away things that I no-longer need but why stop there. I’m the kind of person who never deletes old messages from my phone. I realised today that there was messages in my phone from 2013 so today I decided it was about time to start fresh. Delete old messages, have a cull of people on Instagram and turn a new leaf in the book of life.

I’m not sure if this is pure coincidence or if there is some other explanation but I was scrolling through my twitter timeline when I came across a tweet one of my followers had retweeted. The tweet was from the account @inspire_us I don’t often scroll through my twitter timeline which is why I find it so strange that it was today that I came across this tweet. The message is simple but so powerful.

“Forgive them even if they’re not sorry.”

It was the moment I read this tweet for a second everything made sense. We can’t live our best life with the shadows of yesterday haunting us. You can’t be happy today if you haven’t forgiven yourself or the people around you for what has happened in the past. If you made a bad decision remind yourself that it was a situation that you learned from and that you’re better because of it. If someone treated you badly, betrayed your trust or just generally made you feel like garbage forgive them for making you feel that way. They might not be sorry but don’t let that stop you from getting on with your life. It’s so easy to put a wall up and not let people in but don’t let one negative experience get in the way of someone else treating you the way you deserve to be treated.

We all have hopes, dreams and expectations personally I think sometimes it’s the expectations that get in the way. In friendships I think sometimes people expect too much of you and that’s when a friendship begins to break down. Relationships can be the same you’re so busy worrying about the future that you forget to live in the moment. What ever it is going on in your life try not to overthink the situation and just enjoy it for what it is.

I have to go and do some work but I guess what I want you to take away from this blog is that it is important to forgive yesterday to prepare for tomorrow. There is no point in dwelling on past experiences and relationships and allowing them to Prevent you from moving forward. Life is short. Make the most of every experience and every opportunity that presents itself to you. If you feel like you’re stuck going round in circles take some time to yourself before getting back on the horse and approaching the challenge from another angle. No mistake is bad as long as you learn from it. No experience is a waste. If it’s the past that’s been holding you back figure out what it is that’s holding you back and forgive yourself or whoever it is that is preventing you from being your best. There’s no right or wrong way to live life, it’s a personal experience and you’ve just got to find what feels right to you. I hope you find that feeling of excitement and liberation soon.

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