Right now it’s 11.52am and I’ve just been on a pointless walk around the city. I think it’s so important when you’ve got time to just put your headphones in and walk with no intention. When I first moved to Auckland I was an intern and didn’t have that many friends so I used to spend a lot of time just walking around the city. Some days I would leave the house at 9am and wouldn’t get home until 3pm I would just walk. I didn’t have anywhere to be or anything to do. I guess life has become a lot busier and while I love being busy and always having a lot on the go I think it’s so important to have these moments of mental clarity. Moments when you aren’t thinking about where you need to be or what you need to do. Moments of complete freedom. Moments where you can reflect on what is going on. Moments to manifest positive thoughts and situations in your life.
Have you ever stopped and thought about how many balls you’re juggling at once? There are so many things that you have to keep in the air all at the same time. It’s no wonder the months weeks and years are passing by so quickly. You’ve got the essential things like breathing, eating and drinking that we have to do to survive. Then there are the things that we do to support our lifestyles. You guessed it work. It’s the thing we hate to love and love to hate but without it our weekends would be pretty boring. Family and friends two of the most important things in life but at the same time they do come with their own pressures. The pressures of society, social media are two pressure’s that I think have the biggest impact on people these days. Over time it has become a more prominent an issue.
I was scrolling through my twitter newsfeed the other day and came across a tweet that said “my friends are all like “get boys to buy you drinks in town, it’ll lower the cost” SORRY THAT I AM UGKY, IT IS HARDER FOR ME TO GET GUYS TO PAY ATTENTION TO ME” I stopped on that tweet and just stared at it for about twenty minutes. First I was annoyed then I was sad and then I was just plain upset. Upset that someone is putting so much of their self worth in what other people think of them. Then it got me thinking wait it’s not actually this person’s fault that they’ve put so much of their self worth in what other people think it’s just the way that we have been brought up. We’re told from a young age that we need to be in a relationship. We are so exposed the “ideal” and are bombarded with the idea of beauty can we really blame this person for not feeling pretty. It’s this stupid cycle that just keeps going round and round and it needs to stop. You’re not defined by the length of your hair. Your body shape doesn’t make you who you are. There is more to life than a number on the scales. Beauty can be found anywhere. Beauty is inside you. Beauty is the face that you see when you look in the mirror. I’m not saying you need to walk around saying “I’m hot” let’s be honest people will think you’re a bit of an asshole but in all honesty we need to stop this culture of pulling people down. We need to put an end to people thinking they’re ugly because someone doesn’t like them. We need to open our minds and realise that not everyone is the same. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. Rather than putting yourself down try being kind to yourself.
You might be sitting there thinking Cam love what you’re saying but what do you know? I’ve got backup. P!nk is one of my favourite artists of all time. I love her outlook. I love the fact that she is so unapologetically herself. I love that she hasn’t ever changed because someone thinks that she should. She is an inspiration to anyone who doesn’t quite fit the mould. Is she your stereotypical female pop star? No. Is she awesome? Yes! Her speech at the 2017 MTV VMAs was perfect. I want you to listen to each and everyone of these words and take them in.
I find it crazy to think that people try and change P!nk or have an issue with the way she looks. When you think about the amount of success she’s had it seems mental that anyone would try and tear her down but the unfortunate truth is that no matter how successful you are, no matter what you look like, no matter what you believe in there will always be people who try and tear you down, try and change the way you look or try and change your beliefs. It’s important you remain true to yourself. It is imperative that you live your truth.
Can I just tell you beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You might be upset that you don’t have a partner but the universe has a plan for you and when you least expect it you will stumble across someone who will support you in the way you need it. Someone who wants to share their life with you. Someone who is going to build you up and bring out the best in you. By no means should you ever become reliant on someone else but it’s ok to allow someone to love and support you and for you to love and support them in return. You are your own being and it’s important to be independent. It’s also ok to ask for help when you need it. Nobody gets through life being ok 100% of the time.
You are more than what other people think of you. You are more than the number of people that follow you on social media. You are more than the expectations people cast on you. You are more than what society thinks is “normal.” Nobody knows what it’s like to be you so don’t let the exterior noise get in the way of you living your truth. Release the pressure of yesterday and know that today the best you can do is live life for you. Do the things that make you happy. Be there for the people you care about and most importantly learn to love yourself and learn to trust that the universe has a plan for you and most importantly be kind. Be kind to everyone including you.