Giving advice is easy, well not always but a lot of the time it’s easier when you have an outside perspective and you’re just trying to help someone get the most out of their life. I would rather help someone worth through their issues than work on my own. I don’t know if it’s the fact that I am ignoring my issues or if it’s just easier that way. Eventually these things that you’re avoiding will catch up on you and it’s not going to help you in the long run. While you might enjoy giving other people advice and helping through what ever it is they’re going through sometimes you need to take time for yourself and take time to reflect.
If you feel like you’ve made it through the beginning of 2017 without making any real progress I want you to set aside some time to reflect. The truth is you are making progress it might not be huge you might not be where you would like to be but remember good things take time. You are doing better than you will ever admit. You need to take time out of your busy schedule to remind yourself that you are human, you are making progress and eventually you will achieve what ever it is that you’ve set out. Sometime you have to re-evaluate your game plan or tackle things with a new perspective. Can I suggest a change of scenery? Break your usual routine and do something completely different for a while. It is amazing what some time out and a change of scenery can do for you. If you’re struggling to find clarity don’t put extra pressure on yourself. Take 3 deep breaths and shift your focus. If something isn’t going your way rather than putting yourself down and telling yourself that you “can’t do it” have a little faith in yourself. Focus, concentrate and believe you are able to make the changes necessary for the success you desire.
Surround yourself with positivity. It’s crazy how much someone else’s energy can effect you. Life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies I get it but if someone else is bringing you down you need to distance yourself from them. You’re never going to be the best version of yourself if someone else is constantly bringing you down. Sometimes it’s not even another person you need to distance yourself from sometimes it’s the things that are going on in your own mind. Tell yourself negative things enough and eventually you will begin to believe those negative thoughts. Mistakes are there to learn from. They aren’t bad. Rather than beating yourself up for making a mistake learn from it. Use it as a tool to grow your skills. Create a plan for you to move forward in a positive way. Acknowledge your mistake, don’t beat yourself up for making it simply think about a resolution or how you can prevent the same mistake happening again in the future.
I feel like everyone overthinks everything. Partially it’s the doing of social media, partially society and partially the expectations your put on yourself. let go of all that negativity. Use social media for the things you want to use it for. If someone has a different opinion to your own that’s fine, they will try and tell you you’re wrong but diversity is a beautiful thing. Stay true to yourself and what you believe in.
If you aren’t happy in your situation make changes to make you happy. If you don’t like your job search for something elsewhere. If you’re not happy in your current living situation this too can be changed. Life is too short not to enjoy. You’re never going to enjoy every minute that’s an unrealistic expectation but it is essential to enjoy as much of it as you possibly can. Sometimes you have to make big decisions. Sometimes things aren’t what you thought they would be. That’s ok, as I mentioned earlier it’s totally fine to change your direction. What works for other people might not work for you and that’s ok as well. This is your life you’ve just got to do what’s right by you.
I guess what I want you to take away from this blog is that nothing in life is definite. we are all just trying to find out way the best that we can. There is no wrong or right answer. There’s no cheats. There’s no short cuts. All you can do is try, re-evaluate, try again and change your game plan until you figure out what is is that makes you happy.
You won’t find the answer overnight but eventually I hope you figure out just what makes you happy.