Take Control

I feel like this is going to be super blunt but sometimes you need a kick from the behind to ensure you’re walking in the right direction. If it’s time to change your path well there’s no point beating around the bush. The faster you get on the right track the quicker you will reach your destination. Keep in mind sometimes there isn’t a destination to be reached. Sometimes it’s just a path that you have to keep walking but with each step you have to keep improving. Learning to conserve your energy, learn to remain patient or simply master the heel toe technique. You’re probably sitting there trying to decipher what the hell it is that I am trying to say. It’s not that difficult. This entire year I have been struggling with anxiety. My anxiety has been caused by the fact that I have been working my entire life to host a radio show. I am now hosting a radio show and I don’t really know what to do with myself because it has always been my dream. I never expected it to actually happen. Now that it is happening it’s a little less magical than I had expected. I think that is totally fine. We build up things in our head so much it is ok to be let down. The thing you must remember if you’re feeling let down is why we do the things we do. If you have started a new job and aren’t enjoying it or have found a new relationship but you’re not quite sure if this person is right for you, I suggest you trust your gut instinct. There’s no point beating around the bush. Sometimes you just know. Trust that feeling, walk with confidence and don’t second guess yourself.

One thing that I have really been struggling with is being myself because I don’t really feel like myself. Find ways to feel like yourself and to bring your personality to what ever it is that you are doing. You are the only person in this world who can be 100% authentically yourself. Don’t be afraid to talk about your sexuality. Don’t be afraid to try things and see what happens. There’s no right or wrong answer. Just because you feel one thing today doesn’t mean you will feel that thing or that way for the rest of your life. Life happens, things change and overtime you will too.

When you’re struggling with something try and identify what it is that you are struggling with. Think about a solution. Chances are if you can deal with each individual thing rather than a larger issue it will become more manageable and you will be able to challenge that process. One thing for me I find difficult is saying what I think, in reality that is my job. I have to say what I think and believe in it. If someone else has a different opinion that’s totally fine I can listen to them, think about what they’ve said and make a decision if I want to continue down my path or allow them to convince me with their side of the story. It’s a natural instinct for us to want other people to like us and agree with us. The truth of the matter is not everyone in life will like you and not everyone will agree with you. That doesn’t mean to say your opinion is better than there’s or that theirs is better than yours for that matter. We are all humans we are all entitled to our own opinions. Be confident in voicing yours nobody is going to do it for you.

When it comes to social media it’s easy to be convinced that everyone else is happy all of the time. It’s easy to think that people are alway on holiday and that your life is never going to be as interesting as theirs. You might have 60 followers and your friends might have 600. While it might be nice to have a lot of followers it won’t make you happy. I am not saying don’t use social media, I use it everyday I just want you to know that not everything you see and read on social media is the truth. Sometimes there is a broken heart behind the smile or a bag of debt behind the luxury holiday. Nothing in life is what it seems.

While life can be a challenge it is also beautiful. Think about all the incredible things you have done so far. The amazing places you have been and most importantly the friends who’ve touched you life.

While you have your daily battles and struggles remember you’re not alone. Beyonce still has her doubts. Cara Delevingne still has her insecurities and you are still finding your way. It’s a journey enjoy it.

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